Perfectionism Runs on Patterns
Any mind is a hostage to its habits. Perfectionistic mind - even more so. Perfectionist's mind is a high security prison guarded by guilt-tripping shoulds. Thomas Hurka, in a philosophical analysis of the idea of perfectionism, observes: "The perfectionist ideal is a moral ideal
Restated the doctrine of perfectionism means that we should strive for the sake of striving, not because it feels good, but just because. Preaching perfectionism for the sake of perfectionism is akin to idealistic hazing designed to override the fundamentals of human motivation and to override free will.
If I tell you to dig a perfect hole in the ground, for no reason other than that you can, and you comply without any questions, you are a soldier of the absurd, a zombie. Striving for perfection for no particular reason or gain, just because, is masochistic insanity that can be only tolerated through reflexive compliance.
What miraculous force makes this irrational, reflexive compliance possible? The name of this seemingly unstoppable force is mindlessness.
When mindless, we don't choose for ourselves, we don't lead, we don't self-govern; we follow the shoulds of our programming. Shoulds are necessary: to function as a society we do need guidelines. Perfectionistic shoulds, however, are in a league of their own: they are either irrationally self-referencing ("I should try harder because one should always try harder") or they are extreme expectations ("I should never make a mistake"). In either case these kinds of perfectionistic shoulds can only thrive on the mindless obedience of a habit. While all of us, up to a point, are creatures of habit, perfectionists are notoriously rule-bound and compulsive. Stuck in routines, they struggle with change.
The goal is to free yourself from the tyranny of shoulds, to sprint some spontaneity into the rigid machinery of mindlessness, and to practice change. The aim is nothing less than to rehabilitate the capacity for making conscious choices. After all, freedom to change begins with a conscious choice!